What happens when your best friend is not talking to you? (Relationships - 3)

As mentioned in one of my earlier posts, you do not realise the importance of a close friend until he/she goes away from you.

There are number of reasons which keep you interested in your work/studies.
Most of the parents feel that kids should not play and they should always study. In reality, some playing time in a day freshens up the mind and one can study with much more interest than otherwise. Similarly, in office, eagerness to meet your friends, be a part of some event that is happening in office, the recreational activities like pool, TT, etc are the few things that actually drive you to go to office. Once you reach the office and sit at your desk, all the pending work automatically falls into place.

One of your best friends in office - what is he/she wearing today, your group of friends are planning an outing for the weekend - these things give you the much needed zeal at work.

Now, consider a day when one or two of your best friends are upset with you and are not talking. Does your day at work shape up differently? It certainly does. You do not feel the same. On any other day, your work would have given better productivity to the company but not today. You feel as if you are all alone in this world, and no one is actually bothered about you on that particular day. You go to play pool and you find that there is no one to accompany you. You plan to just change your mood a bit by chatting with a few friends and all are busy at the same time - as if they are together and left you all alone to suffocate in that clumsy and silent office space of yours which otherwise is so lively all the time.

You desperately try to call up a few other friends but none of them are reachable. Some of them are nicely partying when you are in the worst of situations. You dont understand what to do and resort to shedding a few valuable tears. Does crying really help in such situations? Some people feel it does as it vents out your frustation. Some people use it just to create a sympathy wave in their friend's mind which may eventually just convince him/her to forgive you.

He/She may forgive you after a day or two but what about the two days which were probably an endless era for you. If you say sorry a hundred times, they may just keep ignoring you. If you dont say sorry, they may feel that he/she has such a big ego problem. Those few days are a one man's world for you and that is the best test of how you can control yourself.

Once that phase passes, you feel as if you were so stupid to resort to crying or even hurting yourself physically in some cases. People resort to such steps in an event of a failure in any walk of life. Friends are the best ones who can support such a person during this phase. They are the people who know you in and out.


Let that phase pass and...... life goes on.